Because Jesus and the early church believed in an imminent apocalypse, they were opposed to having sex and producing children. I have written about this elsewhere; I recently discovered similar views by Amy-Jill Levine, Professor of New Testament and Jewish Studies, Vanderbilt. See “The Earth Moved: Jesus, Sex and Eschatology.” The early church did not believe that there would be a next generation. (Some young people today hold similar views for fear of a different kind of apocalypse). Jesus thought he was inaugurating a new age, when people would be like angels, when marriage and childbirth would no longer be needed. Angels neither married nor were given in marriage (Mt. 22:30; Lk 20:35). Jesus encouraged his followers to become like eunuchs (who cannot produce children) (Mt. 19:12). Jesus insisted on no divorce, since there was no reason for divorce. It appears that some separations of husbands and wives occurred in the early church, although Paul encourages them to stay together [in a loveless marriage?] (1 Cor. 7:10-12). Matt. 5:27-28 forbids not only adultery but lust. Mark 9 says it is better to cut off a “hand” that causes you to stumble (“hand” being a euphemism). Jesus created a new family, a “fictive kinship group,” where relationship is not by biology but one of mutual support.
We are to be like children (who do not procreate), but we are not to conceive children. As Crossan says, “A kingdom of children is a kingdom of the celibate.” Nowhere in the New Testament is there anything about the joy and blessing of having children. Celibacy and lack of children was a marker of group identity. Contrast this with Judaism (which Christians called “carnal Israel.” It encouraged its people, including the rabbis, to enjoy the blessings of children and family.
Jesus’s views are consistent with John the Baptist, the Essenes, and with Paul. Paul encouraged Christians not to marry, although he said it is better to marry than to burn with passion (2 Cor. 7). Some early disciples had “sister-wives,” who were more like sisters than wives (1 Cor. 9). In Revelation, the number saved would be 144,000 male virgins “who had not defiled themselves with women” (Rev. 14:4). The asceticism and celibacy issues in the Catholic church have a long history!
All of this shows that Dan Brown’s fantasy of Jesus having a romantic relationship with Mary Magdalene cannot be right. Jesus did not believe he had time! Furthermore, I believe that Mary Magdalene was the adopted mother of Jesus, pursuant to a Jewish tradition of ritual adoption for those who were being consecrated as Jewish Kings (See Robert Graves: The Nazarene Gospel Restored). Jesus was crucified for claiming to be King of the Jews. There are early sources depicting Mary Magdalene as the mother of Jesus. Her name comes from “the Braider,” [Miriam M’gadd’la], from her work as one of the virgin weavers of the temple veil. Medieval paintings show the mother of Jesus as a weaver. This adopted relationship also explains the virgin birth as being born again, and it explains how James, who was educated, and who performed priestly work, is related to Jesus, who was not of priestly lineage. And it explains why Jesus had problems with his birth family, who thought that he was crazy (Mk 3:21). He is not very respectful to his own birth mother or family but speaks of his true brother and sister and mother (Mt. 12:48-50).
Amy-Jill Levine: “The Earth Moved: Jesus, Sex and Eschatology,” in Apocalypticism, Anti-Semitism and the Historical Jesus
Daniel Boyarin: Carnal Israel
My own article on the Mennonite theologian, “John Howard Yoder: Seeking a Christian Tantra.”